Yes I have been reading through old posts. I understand not being in love to begin with. But after many years and more children later I don't understand. I know as a woman I wouldn't have had more children if I wasn't in love. Love can build over time and children and sharing lives. But I did go looking for a good example from an old post to use. This is cobra's words....
Quote: She said she only had sex to appease me and she had no feelings toward me. I told her that wasn’t true, that she does have feelings and she would like to have a relationship with someone again. She acknowledged this but said it couldn’t be with me, there was just too much water under the bridge. I told her that was not true, that the problems were not that large but her anger is. She admitted that her anger was overwhelming toward me. I told her she needed to work through her anger with her mother and father and quit projecting them onto me.
She clearly states that she is angry with him. He then analyzes those feelings into something else and tells her she is angry with her parents and projecting it on her. She was talking to him about her feelings towards him. It has to be maddening to her to be analyzed so much and told her feelings aren't true that it is do to something else. I would shut down to. It's like why bother. She also says she would like to have a relationship with someone else. Which is why I say maybe she is at a plce where she knows he doesn't love her. He has alinated her from most of his life. Rememember she isn't even allowed to speak to his family. Maybe she wants to find true love. Maybe she wants to find someone who loves her. Maybe she is at a place where she realizes this is damaging to her children. She realizes she can't be honest with her feelings with him. Because if she says she has xyz feelings because of him or the past he always jumps in and analyzes her and turns the blame off himself.
