So she attacks you looking for a so-called apology and you attack her back looking for a so-called marriage commitment and that's good..that's forcing her into the crucible? Man, I'm just not seeing that! I promise you that I am not coming after you out of orneryness, I am honestly wanting you to continue with your momentum. And I think that being a man of steel against HER attacks is the way to go, but I don't see any need for attacks of your own. It weakens you in her eyes because she knows that she has you riled up enough that you 'go there'. When my H is calm and in control and absolutely firm in his convictions, but also (strangely enough) loving at the same time, I fall in line like a scared army recruit. It's weird. When he gets at all attacking, I get a strange urge to eat him for lunch and not in a fun way either.
I don't think you are addressing your own issues of resentment as much as you are over focusing on her crap. Perhaps you can take a breather from what she's doing/thinking/processing and concentrate on Cobra for a while. Hold on to yourself and do not engage when she tries to get you to do that and THIS will force her into the crucible. If you have to attack her to get her there, it's just more fusion, kwim?
