cobra, I don't have time for a long reply... (installing my new hard drive... gonna have a funeral for the old one later today out in the country-- but this new one is WICKED fast!)...
Maybe I'm nuts, but I think you're doing the right stuff. I think everyone is misunderstanding you mightily. I totally understand the property thing (and think hairdog's suggestion is a good one). I'm not sure the others have the total picture of how long you and your W have been struggling, how far y'all have come, and most importantly, how little you started with emotionally.
When I read your posts, I mostly nod in agreement. No red flags or alarm bells go off. Yes there are battle lines drawn somewhat, but I think in your sitch, they're warranted.
Not sure why everyone is down on your case. You're not in a "normal" (excuse the expression) marriage with a strong Assumption of Good Will either in place, or at least in memory. You're crawling back from the edge of a M that, if it weren't for kids, would have and probably should have ended. I think self-protection, and especially financal self-protection, are very much in order.
Anyway, just wanted to check in. Back to installing, reinstalling, downloading, etc.
