Do you really not see that the two of you are really having the dynamics of a D battle....and not a battle to SAVE your M? ONE of you has got to give. I know you say you've changed over time....but what I see you doing now, and apparantly others do to is digging in your heels and being stubborn. Honestly, most of your posts lately have sounded like she needs to do xyz, or it's her turn to do xyz etc. It seems lately you've taken the focus off of YOUR behavior and put it back on her.
Ok...so you are thinking she wants the property to give herself more if you two D....have you talked to her about that lately? Have you told her lately what your issue with this is? I'm not asking if you've asked her or told her before....I'm asking about recently.
Just this week in our MC session my H and I had a conversation which stemmed over my H not openening his freakin mouth (sorry just a tad frustrated with that). He ASSUMED I should know something, because I'm a reasonably intelligent woman (his words). I had to remind him (yet again) that we are individuals just because he thinks I would/should know something....doesn't mean I will. The only way for him to guarantee I understand him is to....speak up.
Cobra, I honestly do see the two of you in a HUGE power play and the only way to get out of that is for one of you two to let go of the rope.
I see several of us telling you very similar things...yet you seem to be discounting us. Remember we are gathering our info from what you say, and how you say it....there is something to what we are telling you. We are being no less honest with you....as you have been with others on here.
