Cobra,

You are being me! Or at least the old me. WTF?

Let it go. How is a leap of faith defined? By expectations from you Wife? By Quid pro Quo? By if you do not play nice I am taking my ball and leaving?

At what level of differentiation is that?

You mention boundaries? In looking I am seeing ultimatums. They are not the same.

My take:

Apologize, move on, be yourself and quit looking to force you wife out of the crucible and into the fire.

Just my 2 cents

F4W

Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.

Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!