Now remember that she has still not elected to disarm her attorney. So as long as I think she may be plotting to D and take as many assets as she can (and she has said before that this is exactly what she intends to do), then I will not give her anymore ammunition in court. I have my own financial interests to watch over.
My proposal to her was to make the leap of faith first. Regardless of how she may feel toward me now, what does she WANT? What is her objective? If she does not ever want to be married, then there is little more to discuss and I will not give over any personal assets. If she does want a happy marriage, then I will commit to doing what it takes to get there. There is more at play here than simply acquiescing to an apology.
Why should she take the "leap of faith" if you are not willing to do so yourself? And all this "plotting" to D and "not give over any personal assets" (on both your parts) screams to me the two of you are NO WHERE CLOSE to having that intimate M you speak of. What kind of progress could there possibly be in this set-up?? One thing that strikes me, that you may find trite, is that the two of you are not NICE to each other. I also get ZERO sense of love/like/affection between the two of you (from your posts obviously). Even in our worst moments, H never tried to screw me over financially or even speak poorly of me. How do you possibly justify your actions and words about your W and expect this "intimate" M that you want? Makes no sense to me, and as HP states, it makes me want to scream at your posts sometimes. You seem to have boat- loads of insight about her and yet really not as much as you should about yourself. I have yet to see you write more than few sentences about your own FOO, a major issue for you, yet there are probably 100's of posts regarding your W's FOO, and deflections, and this, and that. Do you truly not see this??
