Cobra, the first thing that came to my mind after reading your update was, Does he want to be right or does he want to be happy? The whole apologizing for the jail incident sort of irked me. And I think that's because I was thinking about my own situation when H left. Both traumatic events in our M's. If my H has never even attempted to apologize after all that time (which is what your W stated in C), I would be very reluctant to commit to the M too. Don't you see that?? I've stated to Heather that she should work on "softening" and I think you could benefit from that too. I don't mean turn into a pansy, I just mean lighten up a touch. Beceome a Litle more sensitive to your W's perceptions of the M. They DO count. As much as you feel they are wrong.
