Great post Gel it did make a lot of sense.

I hate hate when my husband use to do this. I don't care what other husbands do. I don't care what other wives would be happy with. What matters to me is my marriage. And what is right for us. All it does really is cause a huge arguement. Because for every husband that does help some you may be able to point out 2 or three that do even more. There could be some that do less. It does no good to compare.

Also I think this jail thing would hold resentment for a long time. It has to affected many aspects of her life. If I am recalling right she is a teacher. That is crucial to her job if she has a police record. Then to have her husband admit well you wouldn't talk so I did push you to the point of fighting with me but I will only give you a half azz appology.