Quote: The other interesting aspect of this crucible is that she has complained for so long about all the criticisms I made of her, my anger, my pursuing the argument, not helping enough around the house and on and on…. I don’t think she can put any of those arguments up know.
Yes, she can actually. Those behaviors she complained about went on for quite some time right? You may not be doing those things now but she CAN still hold resentment over past behavior, she CAN still mistrust your new behavior for awhile....BUT what you CAN do is point out to her when she does mention these things that your behavior has and is changing. When she does put those arguments up it's then your turn to assure her that those behaviors are changing and remind her gently of that.
IMPO...if she does ever throw those behaviors up it's a sign of resentment of past behavior and mistrust of your current behavior....and therefore your opportunity to assure her it won't happen any longer.
