Well guys, looks ike my H and I are moving on to the "maintenance" portion of our MCing and out of the "problem" portion!
Since our HUGE blow-up in February things have progressively gotten better in the GEL household. In the last three months in particular I have seen some BIG behavioral changes in my H towards me. He's talking more to me about things that are on his mind, even just to vent. He's open to talking to me when I have a concern or a trigger (without automatically going into fight/flight mode). He's also being more amorous towards me on a more regular basis. Does that mean our sex life has increased dramatically....nope. What it does mean is that the intimacy in our R has greatly increased....pretty much stayed at an elevated level, sure it fluxuates...but even the low intimacy days are much higher than they had been in the past. Why? I wish I could say for sure....all I can really pinpoint it to is that there has been a paradigm shift in his way of thinking about our R and about me as well. It's as if he's no longer seeing me as an amicable enemy, but as a partner/wife/lover who wants to work with him.
Several times over the last month in particular my H has told me how ashamed he is that he did what he did online (gotta tell you guys, I really needed to hear that too.) He's done this without my provocation either...it's just something he threw in during conversation, he did it again yesterday in our MC session.
Naturally we told our MC that we were invited to go on the Dr. Phil show too....she thought that was absolutely great! LOL I was surprised when she said "you should have gone", not necessarily to air our dirty laundry....but to help show other couples that people CAN work through tough issues like ours. You guys should have seen how my H's chest just puffed up at that compliment LOL.
So anyway....we are now going to be seeing her just once every couple of months, to see how we're doing and see if there's anything else we need to work on. WHEW! After nearly 2 1/2 years of regular counseling we finally get a break
Can you guys tell I'm feeling pretty good right now....it feels good to be happy!
