It's been a long roller coaster ride but the light has finally turned on in my world....Husband has been moved out for about 1 1/2 years and is now back, but I still have some concerns.... My husband's office is out of the house and when he moved out he didn't take much out of there and I got curious about a picture that was hanging up in his office and took it off the wall and opened up the back to see what it was...I thought it had something to do with the other woman and sure enough there were pictures of her hidden in there and I was hoping that once he moved back in and re-set up his office that he would take that picture down...but he didn't and he even added one picture to it that I noticed must have been in a frame....I'm positive his relationship with her in the physical sense has been over for a long time, but I'm not sure what to make of him keeping her pictures like that....I haven't said anything because I know his moving home was a very big step for him....I took the kids up north so he could have the time to himself to move in without anyone being in his way....I know he appreciated that very much....He has been very loving and not showing too many signs of being overwhelmed at being home.... ANother thing is that I have "snooped" just a little at some of his things.....I know I shouldn't be doing this because I don't want him to think I don't trust him, but maybe in a way I'm scared to trust too much... Anyone who has been through an affair and survived the other person moving out and coming back can maybe give me some advice on what to expect.... Michelle, are you out there.... According to our counselor she says to take things slowly and gently and not to expect too much too soon.....she told me not to mention the pictures at this time because she doesn't think H would have moved home if he definately didn't have things resolved....In actuallity things have been getting better as we go along....we have learned to talk about things and let each other know how we feel gently.... Our counselor said it feels a little weird because we all (kids included) have to learn how to live together again.....I'm not sure how the person who left feels when they move back home....I know my H major concern was that he did like that little bit of space that was his alone, but also knows that he can't have it both ways....I think he's trying to figure out how he make himself feel at home again.... Does anyone have any suggestions for me..... I've been waiting for this day for a long time and I don't want to jeopardize anything, but I don't want to have to walk on eggshells forever either.... Please respond if anyone can give me some advice....All of you on this board are so wonderful and we have all been through so much and I know there are so many of you that would love to be in my shoes and I'm grateful that I am too and I know that I will have to forever divorce bust in order to keep our marriage together.... God Bless
