I'm not really all that concerned about him not telling me about the Viagra (although I will admit it was shocking to run across after knowing about his online activities, so in a way it was a trigger for me)...that's actually something I CAN understand. The thing I was pointing out to him is that...when I was asking him (many times in the beginning of this process) WHAT it was he was trying (when he told me he was "working on it")....IF he had confided that in me, it would have really eased my mind. Instead, from my perspective....it looked like he was doing nothing. On that aspect, he agreed with me.
Do I understand why he would have hesitated to share the fact that he was trying that medication? Oh heck yeah, I can definitely see that as a guy thing.
