Thanks for the feedback. And...yes, I do bring things up a couple weeks later when the right situation comes up....and I reinforce that #1 it's ok to make mistakes, and #2 I'm not out to crucify the man. I emphasize that I'm not on a fault-finding mission, I simply want an honest relationship. If either of us screws up, as long as we are honest about it, it can be worked through.
As for the loan his parents have made...yes it will be paid back. In fact I just got off the phone with my MIL who asked me to draw up a promissory note with the amortization schedule etc...so we can have it notarized and formalize things. It's just better for everyone all the way around. This way we will have everything paid off in seven years rather than....never....so now there is a a light at the end of the tunnel for my H (and it's not a train.) :-)
I have no doubt that you are probably on target as you your comment about his work-behavior and his home behavior too. Where he works if someone messes up....they are crucified, made examples of, and often ridiculed in front of others. He did tell me too when it came to the Viagra that "that's just not something guys talk about"...I understand that frame of thinking, but it's pretty important information when a couple is going through what we have....and that's what I conveyed to him. He's making progress about it.
