I think Mr. Gel had a hard time with your "acceptance" because he really does want to be your hero (my H has often expressed words to this effect). The problem is that you aren't worried about having a hero in most arenas of your life but....the one area where you still kinda hang on to an idealized, heroized dream is the one area that he has the hardest time with. Then he thinks to himself - What? She doesn't want a hero anymore but...I am it, I am he, I will figure it out cause I don't want to let go of wanting to fulfill that for her.
