He didn't seem to like the fact that I was letting go....and working on letting go of my "ideal". He told me several times "I'm really working on it"...and "I'm not there yet, but I will be"
Sounds like he’s still enmeshed in a major way. I think the bigger part of your relationship problems has been his lack of differentiation and need for validation from you, rather than the more visible sex drive issue…
