Magenta, First of all, I want you to know that marriages can and do survive infidelity and that you can get back the trust. Since you are going to listen to the tapes, why don't you do that and then post in this section. This section is for people who are in a cyber-group working their way through the tapes together. Your marriage problems are very fixable. Listen to the tapes, alone or together and then ask the group the specific questions you need answered. IT will make a world of difference. Michele
