Wow! It's been quite some time since I updated our sitch hasn't it?
Really not much new to report, things are still going pretty well for us. Unfortunately due to my H taking our son on vacation to GA for a week, then his church camp for a week, my breaking my arm and just life in general we haven't been burning up the sheets....but that's ok. We're still ML more often than we ever did, and the EC is maintaining, which is great.
My H still occasionally slips back into some old behaviors...but I bring them to his attention and they generally get corrected pretty fast. For example....oh about a month ago we managed to ML two nights in a row (a first for us)....without saying a word to me he assumed that now that's what I would want all the time and shut down on me about it. This issue was brought to light quickly in MC though and I basically dared him to "test" me and talk to me about stuff like that. I dared him to one night, when he truly wasn't up to ML to tell me so and see how I responded rather than "assuming" how I would behave. Ever since then he has started testing those waters, which is just fine with me....it's a type of communication he wouldn't touch before.
HE is also now talking more about the fact that we don't manage to have sex as often as HE'd like to (words I never thought I'd hear.) How often is that? I don't know...it's just nice to know that he does think about it...with me. He's also (I believe) working on breaking through his mental barrier about telling me what he wants sexually speaking. He's also recognizing and working on letting me know he does think about me sexually when we do haveour sexual lulls (sometimes caused by sheer exhaustion and a busy life LOL). He's understanding now that at least communicating that to me during our lulls helps me to still feel close to him and helps foster that EC between us.
Like I told our MC yesterday, we've come lightyears from where we were three years ago.
