RE GEL it's not that his back is extremely painful, it's more of a nuisance than anything else right now I had L4/L5 disc partially removed because the disc was herniated and I lost strength in my leg and foot muscles.
The surgery brought back most of the fool and leg strength but 25% of the pain is still there. Sitting is difficult but i do most things I used to do but have flare ups.
I know each individual has a unique set of symptoms. Just thought I would post my problems and coping strategies in case they might be helpful to someone else.
I have a belief about medical advice or opinions: If one size fit all, it would probably be the wrong color.
That is why I wrote FWIW in my last post.
We're getting ready to have a conversation though about him getting comfortable using our "toys". We're at a point now where I believe this can be introduced effectively and he'd be open to it.
Good for you guys!
I should have been more adventurous when I had my back surgery and was out of commission for 6 to 12 weeks. BB never suggested any alternatives to what we were doing (mostly regular missionary), I knew she did not get much out of may manual stimulation, and she tells me she lost interest in sex, for the most part, around that time. That was in 1981.
There are so many times I wish I had a do-over button or would have found something like this forum back then.
I am sure glad it is here for everyone that is in an earlier stage of their M.
