I think that's why it jumped out at me so much (the mock fighting). We were at home, we were by ourselves...no one else around to see it....I think that's why I enjoyed it so much too. My H was playing with ME, ME! FINALLY!
This stuff was going on too even though we could have had a couple of really tense situations. My H got a new computer for his birthday. This weekend I was transferring files from our old computer onto the new one and well....before you know it a few viruses and trojan files etc attached themselves. I've gotten rid of almost all of them but one...which just so happens to have a porn site pop up (yeah, with our issues huh?)
I told my H about it and explained that I knew about this and what it was....so he wouldn't suddenly freak out if it was there (and I saw it on a keylogger, or walked into the room before/after him and it was there (it's the same screen everytime) Anyway....he looked at me like "see I told you they just pop up", I couldn't help but look right back at him and say "I never said they don't just pop up, but I'm smart enough to know the difference between a pop up....and something you clicked on". As I said that I winked at him....and he just went "fair enough". In the past this would have been a highly flammable situation for us....not this time.
Another thing I noticed my H do this weekend, which was a bit out of his normal character was this. Yeterday...we were doing some chores outside....and our son was playing in the yard. Well...being the little boy he is he eventually discovered a puddle and was dabbling playing in it (throwing rocks in it). I could see how badly he wanted to just jump right in the middle of it(takes after mom that way). He needed a bath anyway....and I was getting ready to tell him to go ahead and jump in :-) Right at that time my H tells him to stay away from that puddle! I looked up at my H and asked him "is there really any harm in letting him play in it?"....rather than "there isn't any harm in letting him play in that puddle." I told my H "Ian needs a bath anyway and he is ALL BOY afterall"...and grinned at him. My H just smiled and said "you have a point....gotta let the boy be a boy :-)"
That little scenario resulted in us laughing our butts off at our son as he stripped down and went swimming in a mud puddle LOL. I now have several blackmail photos of our son entitled "Redneck Swimming Pool" LOL....and a movie clip of our naked son walking away from this mud puddle covered in mud & dirt saying "Be Right Back!" LOL.
My point? My H is thinking/processing things differently. He wouldn't have been allowed to play in that mud puddle, and my H is a fastidiously neat person as far as his appearance goes so to him jumping in a mud puddle would always be out of the question. Not for mom though. I'm still known for jumping in the middle of a puddle in a parking lot without warning LOL.
My H definitely go some immediate satisfaction out of his change of behavior by watching his son have the time of his life! We have the memories of that day on film too!!
