Great answer. I actually agree with 90% of what you're saying. Here is the 10% I don't agree with- (LOL)- Take your personality example. I always considered myself to be a sort of bookish, laid-back type of person. I once interviewed for a job as an inventory manager at a large bookstore. I was offered a job as a human resource manager instead because they had already filled the inventory position. I really had no idea what this entailed and suddenly found myself interviewing hundreds of people and giving morale boosting talks to groups of employees and many other activities which I never would have considered purposefully choosing to do or succeed at doing. The amazing thing is that I discovered I was actually very good at this job and I consider it one of the lucky breaks of my life that I fell into it because I am now very comfortable in a lot of career and life situations that I might never have attempted otherwise. So........what if I offered you $50 to come to my party and wear bright clothes and tell jokes in the center of the crowd? What if I offered you $5000? $5,000,000? People can change and often their self-esteem will improve if they do change if the change offers them more options in life but sometimes they just need adequate motivation.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
