GEL- Sounds like things are still going well for you. That's great! I wanted to ask you a question in response to the post that you made on Brian's thread regarding "acceptance". You indicate that you've come to accept that your H just isn't a sexually Alpha kind of male and that is okay with you because you love so many other things about him. My question is - Why is it necessary for your H to "be" an alpha male in order to exhibit the kind of alpha male type behavior that you might enjoy sexually? For instance, why is requesting assertive or aggressive initiation from your H any different from requesting that he touch your breasts in a certain way that you enjoy? I mean isn't the sexual part of you that wants to be approached in an Alpha way just as valid as the sexual part of you that is assertive and able to initiate freely?
What if you were married to a man who mostly initiated Alpha style and that is what you were comfortable with. What if this man came to you and said "GEL, most of the time I do have the urge and enjoy aggressively initiating sex with you but I think it would be really hot if maybe every third encounter you were the one to approach me in an assertive way and initiate.". What would your reaction be? Would you say "I'm sorry but that's just not who I am sexually." or would you try to see if you could expand your horizons sexually in order to fulfill your H's desire? Why shouldn't we ask the same of our not-so-Alpha husbands?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
