Sorry I've been away for a little while. Thanks for all the comments. The long and the short is that I have allowed him to come back home. For considerations of finances and the children, we need stability in those areas. I'm not totally happy about it as he will be more inclined to take for granted than work, but he has decided that he will not give up. I worked for this marriage and that's what he plans to do. However, doing it is not easy for him. In many ways, he just doesn't know where to start and has focussed on doing things around the house. Not bad but not making any difference to "us" in any meaningful way. I have told him that amongst other things and today he made a decision to use this forum for help. He has posted today under Newcomers, and his own name Lawrie. I know he will get help here from lots of wonderful people so here's hoping that he at least builds some relationships here which will help him to do what is necessary.
I just feel as if I'm in limbo - where have I heard that before!!!! - and will just have to wait patiently and see what happens. It won't be very easy for me to post here as well as him, that could cause just too much confusion. However, I will try and keep some kind of contact one way or another.
And to think I thought this whole thing was over when I brought him back home but the end is never the end until it is totally right or totally wrong.
