Jo, Throw the bum out! No man has any right to treat a woman with such disrespect after she has worked so hard for him. You asked for the truth and at the time I'm sure would have accepted it. Except he lied. The only way to start again is to acknowlegds the past, work through the hurts and clean the slate. From that moment on. You deserve better and will get better. Come back and see us. Who knows who will fall off the surviving big-D bus.. Rondo