Sue Ann, Hey there!! Hang in there. Yes, it may seem like more doors of opportunities are being openend with Dump Scum leaving her kids, H and having her own little apt. BUT this may also be what really scares your H away from her too! She may start to become real clingy and pushy and demanding of his time. Remember, my H's ow doesn't have her kid either and doesn't choose to live near her d because she "hates that town" and she lives in an apt paid for by my H and her brother!! Talk about open door oportunities!! BUT my H did come home and he is still home... not that all is great, but ... guess what I am saying is try not to react before you have the facts on how your H is going to react. I know I am guilty of basing my H's feelings/beliefs based off of the OW's behaviors (writing him love letters, calling all the time, etc...) and not on what HE is showing me. Continue to act as if!! You are doing a fantastic job! You'll know when enough is enough! Okay, I am not giving a lot of advice, I just want to give some support and a big cyberhug! Your H may not be able to make any real decisions until he gets through this transition time with retirement and the other stuff going on with him (with the psych and union and all that jazz). So at any rate, hang in there. Take care of Sue Ann. And keep posting here!!!
