Hey folks, Don't get me wrong, I'm not necessarily recommending what I did. It hurt. A lot. And their were times that I always questioned myself. And, I got a lot of guff from the kids. But, in our case, we got lucky. (pardon the pun)
As for the STD concern....First, when I found out about the affair, I insisted he get tested, he said he didn't need it as it was only oral sex (ONLY?) Anyway, I insisted and he got tested. Since he was negative, I got tested some months later. Then he got retested. Since I had always been monogamous, I knew that if he was negative, so was I. Of course, when I got tested, I had the full work up, vag cultures, etc. Also, condoms are useful in preventing the spread of STD's if you use them during the time while h is tomcatting around.
My biggest concern was that h told me that the ho suspected that her LTR (which ended just prior to her throwing herself at my h) was actually bisexual. I got sick to my stomach when he told me that one. I wondered how he could touch her knowing that? But I guess he somehow felt sorry for her. The other thing that made me sick was when she told one of my good friends (my godchild's mother) that her new boyfriend (my h) was a better lover than her LTR. (Ho didn't know of my close friendship with the woman she confided in.) But, I digress....
Incidentally, h and I were invited to a wedding this weekend for a co-worker. I asked my h if ho would be there. He said he didn't know. I asked him if the bride and she were friends, and he said they were cube-mates at work. (GREAT!) So, if she shows up, we will just put in our appearance, and make a quick exit. I don't want to hang out in a small hall with the ho right under my nose.
Well, that's all for now. I'll talk to you later. Daughter returns from Europe in 2.5 hours. I am so excited! Can't wait to see my baby girl! hugs all, GG
