Hi CC- There were definitely cycles in the contact with my H. There were periods during which he'd call every day and then we'd go days without any contact. I realized that I couldn't really pinpoint a pattern to it all, in that I stayed relatively consistent, except for what I'd call a few "hicups" or DB backslides here and there. I'm now pretty confident that his lack of contact on occassion really wasn't part of a grand scheme. I did have my moments when I was convinced he was testing me to see how I'd react. I'd feel myself getting sad about what felt like a new level of neglect at the time and put more energy into keeping busy and having fun. I had to change the tape in my head or I would have gone nuts. Focussing on the negative for long seemed to just bring more of it about. CC, let me give this some more thought to see if I can come up with some other ideas--I've got to run for now--Jamie
