Jamie, Thank you for responding to my questions. My H also is one of these people that doesn't want to consciously work on things, and certainly not at my urging. My urging and inquiries have done much damage. Do you think that statements to the effect that he's not coming back, it's over, get on with your life, could be attempts to keep me off his back so he can think at his own pace? Everytime he has said these things, he has followed it up with I'm not divorcing you. He has indicated before that I'm pressuring him, and if that's what's going to happen every few weeks, then it's over. So you see, I don't know if the wild statements are his attempt at making me stop OR talks or if he really means it. All I know is that he isn't intending to divorce me right now. In the beginning, he was saying give me time, but then I guess as I became impatient with his sloooooow pace, I pressured. The result has been further distancing and discouraging statements. I don't know how much longer I can give him. I'm trying in the meantime to go on without him and wondering if I should think about dating in case this marriage isn't going to work out. H says he is, and I should too. There again, I don't know whether to believe he really means this or not. Any ideas? We've been separated 10 months but the year before that was like a separation because he was gone emotionally.
