You need to be upfront and honest with yourself. I haven't posted on here in a long awhile but you got my attention when you said....(I am not looking for an affair, in fact so far I have tried to avoid situations that might cause an affair. But if one found me, my faithfulness might really be tested. )
You have not tried to avoid situations that might cause an affair! What have you DONE (actively, directly towards your wife, not just reading in a book or on here) to COMMUNICATE your UNHAPPINESS to your WIFE?
You still do not tell us what you actively do to try to change the situation you are in You complain about it, you tell us she can't/won't do things...and you tell us you deserve better, and you start posts that down the LD person constantly...but you don't share with us what you've tried....so truly there isn't a person on this BB who can help you change your situation....but YOU can.
So, from my perspective reading your posts....No sir, you haven't tried to avoid situations that might lead to an affair....because as far as I can tell from reading your posts over the last few years.....you have yet to begin to communicate the problem to your wife. So, if you find yourself in a situation where your "faith is tested and you falter"....don't blame your wife, it's a choice YOU would be making.
