I don't think I am retaliating. Because deep down I don't think I would ever want to inflict the kind of pain I have went through. But you listed some good things to think about. I do think now that I am working I do enjoy it. I get out more and have made new friends. I make my own money and handle my own finances. I don't feel I need to rely on him anymore when it comes to finances. So me working has really helped even my self esteem.

It could have caused his drive to increase. I am really not sure. I have been working for 16 months. Only in the last I would say 4 months has the dynamics changed. Even when I think about him I just don't think sexual thoughts. On the weekends I find myself trying to go to bed before him so he won't initiate sex. He has even made comments and he does it in a light hearted way and says things like, " Your not going to sleep on me again tonight. I need some love. " He has even done positive things like trying to bring new things to the bedroom to spice things up. He has been more affectionate and loving. He has also even thrown some compliments in there here and there. He even seems to have more ambition and has gotten a lot of projects done.

So a lot of positives happening. We are getting along lots better. But yet I just can't muster up any romantic feelings towards him at all. I can't help but wonder why the sudden difference in his behavior. Could he maybe feel me pulling away and feels the need to step up and save things? Was he turned off by a sexually aggressive wife? I know deep down he has to wonder why all of a sudden the word sex never come out of my mouth.