Schnarch called this Siamese Twin Syndrome. As an underlying power struggle in a relationship is resolved, the partner's sex drives can flip. Perhaps you are feeling resentment about changes you have made that have caused your H's sex drive to increase and are subconsciously retaliating with a low sex drive yourself? You mentioned that you recently went back to work full-time. Maybe the reduction in stress due to not having to be the primary support of the family has caused your H's sex drive to increase. You might, understandably but not unavoidably, feel resentment that you had to take on the stress of being a working mother in order to alleviate his stress and therefore you are manifesting your own stress in a low sex drive. You might also be feeling resentment because the fact that your H's sex drive rose in reaction to the fact tha you are bringing more cash into the household might make you feel like you are having to "pay" for sex. I think the tendency to be "turned off" by this feeling is one of the main differences between HDW and HDM. HDM are okay with feeling like they have to "pay" for sex to some extent. HDW are repulsed (my H is Kato Kaelin)and angered (Why do I have to pay for something that most women can easily get for free?)at the thought.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
