This is the best news I've heard all day. I am very happy for you. H now knows that he can spend time with you and have a good time. You have been separated 18 months , so ther is still hope for me. I have been separated 13 months.
I like your explanation of remaining open vs. waiting. This does make it a little easier to handle the separation. I think I am now getting at the remaining open stage. I need to stop worrying about him and put my needs and kids needs first.
I can understand about your explanation being lost on your friend. People just dont understand unless they have been in your shoes. I wouldn't have understood either. But I am somewhat in your shoes and I am glad that I found this board. We receive wonderful advice and this is the kind of advice that helps us keep our sanity, and for many times it has helped to keep me focused.
There will be more bumps in the road, for sure. But, you are more than half way around the mountain.
How old is your H? Do you think it was mlc?
Keep up the good work. You certainly know what you are doing.
