Thank you Nathan,GG & Johnswife for replying...you all say the same thing...to let it go for now...maybe he's testing us to see if what has been working will continue to work while he's at home and the apartment is just his safety net...and you are right...I have to continue the DBing to keep this marriage going...I can understand wanting a safety net....we have been going to a pro marriage counselor for over a year and we have gone both seperate and joint sessions...she is pro marriage and has helped us alot...we haven't gone in a while because we haven't had any issues that have come up other than the apartment one...and she too says to let it go for a while....I guess what more advice can I ask for....I have learned patience throughout all of this and sometimes I want to just move on and realize that we are moving at his pace, which is slow but our counselor said he's a slow mover at relationship stuff because of his background, but feels when the decision is made that it would be a permanent one....I will be patient and keep up my PMA...I'll keep reading all of your wonderful posts and keep you posted Thanks again to all of my DB friends from this forum.... God Bless
