Hi Alex, Thank you so much for your suggestions. I appreciate your taking the time to think about what's happening in my life and to point out solutions. You are the brilliant one in your family! I am feeling a better and more focused. It seems to me, that basically, I have become unhappy with myself and am projecting this this on to my H. Granted he is not the most attentive spouse and his interests are very different from mine,but there is nothing new about that. It's me!!!I have changed in that I have lost some confidence and have neglected my own needs. I am floundering..asking H for help,which is, as you and I both know, the worst thing I could do. Today,I took the day off and did a few things for myself! At one point, I realized, I need to do more things that energize and rejuvenate me...I am not taking the time to meet my own needs,so why should I expect anyone else to? I have been on a treadmill for months taking care of everyone else and am out of steam. Alex,I looked on the KLA forum and couldn't find much. I never ordered the tapes..did you? I will get them upon your recommendation. I noticed Tia is a moderator and wonder about that. Is it a good fit? Positive reinforcement does work and I will work on that with H this weekend.I really have to make a conscious effort as it is no longer an "automatic response". Gosh, I thought I graduated from DB University,I guess it's time to pursue another degree! Alex, I am pleased that you are so centered and focused and that your marriage is thriving.You worked so hard and deserve every bit of your success.I am grateful for your "helping hand'.
C2H...hope you have a productive few weeks and that your relationship continues to grow. Thanks for "pondering". Adios Amigo
[This message has been edited by 17baker445 (edited 09-07-2001).]
