Jenny, I couldn't resist busting in on your great dialogue with C2H, but I just wanted to say congrats on returning to work. I think you will probably find that with work occupying your thoughts, and renewed satisfaction and esteem from that great sense of accomplishment, your h's foibles will cause less frustration. I know it certainly works for me.
There have been other things you and C2H have talked about that I wanted to comment on, but am pressed for time so will save for it later when I can communicate at a less frantic pace.