Update on Success!

[Committed2Him]

Hi Jen,
I guess will have to wait for Michele's next book for the answers to some of these questions, huh?

Hopefully the giving brings him to the point where he can give to you. Better yet would be to find out that he's already giving to you in his own way.

On Friday I recommended the Chapman book to someone on the board and then had an "I get it" moment. Earlier in the day W was planning on buying me a gift and I declined. It was a cover for a plam pilot but I had shopped extensively for one before and found them too bulky to carry in my suit and I didn't want to carry a bigger planner-size one around, logical reasoning. In the middle of my post I thought, "Oh no, she wanted to give me a gift and I said, "Thanks but no thanks." I stopped and sent an email to my wife telling her how much I appreciated the thought. I also remembered she had bought me a nice Laker T-shirt after they won the NBA title back in June but I hadn't worn it yet- she mentioned it a week or so ago but it didn't register. On Saturday we went shopping for school clothes and made a little family day out of it and guess what T-shirt I wore?

Even with an MLCer I tend to think if we speak their "love language" long enough, and let them know what our language is, they may come around and speak our language, a little at first, eventually becoming conversational leading to fluency. Still, if they never to become "fluent," maybe conversational will suffice and we can have some of those needs met elsewhere. As for those needs that should only be met by a spouse...help, Michele???