Jenny, asked a friend to check in on this board (SJT) because she has had some challenges with her son and her H, there might be some help (from experience) you can give each other.
As for my thoughts, I can share how I have been trying to address my challenges. I have prioritized my situation this way: 1) Me- meaning my spiritual walk with my God and my mental health. 2) My wife- working on OR issues, communication, relational etc. 3) My kids- self-explanatory 4) My career.
As for son, H needs to be challenged to help solve the situation together, ADD is not something that is someone's fault. I agree, Alex made some great observations but also think you should actively bring H into the goal setting you do for son. Encourage H to lead and come to a plan you both can live with including how your career might be put back on track.
A male ego is a strange thing, the more we can feel our input is wanted and valued, especially by our spouse, the more empowered we feel. It's the way we are wired and a wise woman uses this for the betterment of the family and the marriage. Hope this helps some. C2H
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
