Thanks for taking the time to give your impression and I appreciate your suggestions.
I do think that an Outward Bound Program would be wonderful for my son over the summer break and if he doesn't wind up totally immersed in summer school,that is definitely something I plan to pursue.
Yes, I did have to "rush in" and "rescue",but really had no other choice other than to allow son to stay at home w/o supervision.It's taken time,effort and $$$ to set up his last month of classes along with psychotherapy here at home, as he is not welcome on campus at this point.I am exhausted as this has been a 24/7 process.
H is helping out today and I am insisitng that he take over some hours on the weekends,so that I can take a break.Hopefully, this level of intensity will only continue through the next 3-4 weeks.It's tough on every one,except son who claims he's happier than he's been a while and definitely learning more.
O f course,I am racked with guilt and feel resentment toward spouse over what has "spun out of control" with the children.
Re psycho dynamics:I really did rely on my son during a difficult marital period and perhaps he feels he has been replaced on some level.Lots of other stuff is probably going on,too.But, basically, we have a very talented boy,with an untreated ADD condition, who suddenly experiences family instability and puberty simulataneously while attending a new school.He does some very stupid things and winds up with a "bad rep" over night. ADD is characterized by high risk impulsive behavior in many teenage boys,so it presents it's own set of issues....What a mess!
Meanwhile,my H is scholar who has always been an outstanding student.This latest crisis is hurting H's self esteem and he really can't relate to our son's problems.
