Had a busy weekend, a block fair in front of my office put me at church about two hours early, which gave me time to meditate, play the piano and sing with no one around. (the only time I do such things ) After church, some friends had asked me to join them for a birthday celebration. Following that I went to visit my folks.
Sunday, I (at the suggestion of Harly) and also Becca, called my W(X) to just find out how she was doing and if she needed anything. Her reply was that she was fine and thank you for asking. We had a pleasant talk, she again said how much she loves her new career, makes more use of her marketing degree, etc. Interesting that she said that I should be prepared, her dad is way out there and difficult. (Expecting me to go there I suppose?) Glad for that.
Then I spent most of the day with her dad. We played checkers and I got beat!! We had some good talk about hunting and his growing up. He is supposed to be in the last stages of alzheimers so when he said that it had been four days since I told him of the D, and wanted to know if we had remarried yet, I was surprised. I told him no but when she says yes again, he can perform the ceremony. That put a big smile on his face. End stage Alz. and him counting time and recent (current) memory?
Today: I saw W standing in her office door (glass) when I turned into the bank and then next time I went by she was trotting up the steps from the company SUV but she turned and waved when I went by. A few minutes later she was at a light as I drove through the intersection. I smiled huge, always have my hand on the door with the window down so the wedding band shows.
Lunch time in the little coffee house...sat next to a lawyer and his wife,(sure they know and wonder about the ring) a mutual friend commented on my eating alone, and that my W was just too busy. Then the county mayor stopped to talk. And lunch and Latte (F&H) was on the house.
How are you? Wish there was that simple an answer to singing well or being on pitch.
I am trying to be upbeat, but I just came across a thankyou note from W mailed on Jan 3 (the on that was signed Love, that had me thinking is was a huge baby step). That was sent the 3rd and three days later she filed for D! That took some of the smile from my face but not all.
Hope you have not been doing too much data gathering
The detaching is hard but last week with the help of some lovely people who when they found out she had actually D me, have included me in social settings with them. It makes a lot of difference in how you feel for sure and results in one being and appearing happier.
I didn't know you had some musical talent. Is that something you can parlay into a fun activity somehow? Maybe do a charity thing to get started doing it in public, or playing w/ others? I've sung carols at nursing homes and such w/ people and found it extremely fun and not scary, despite the fact that I typically have a fair amount of "stage fright." Just a thought -- bringing music to people can make you feel so wonderful, they really appreciate it and it's easy to forget that not everyone has that talent.
Glad to see you're not on the bb 24/7. Seems you're stabilizing -- that's a good thing.
Just a little unpracticed talent now. Had to take the piano and organ lessons when younger, always sang in choirs throughout school, a quartet a couple years. My stage fright alone is....well not good. I do enjoy singing in the homes with a small church group. You have an idea though, if I could get good enough to play a few hymns and go to the home and have the residents that want to, come around the piano and sing with me.
I try to not be here as much as I was. I don't have the time now.
Interesting that tonight while I had gone for a walk, W slipped some mail under my door. She still has keys so don't know why she did that. Of course they were school bills; addressed one to her and the other to my D10.
) After church, some friends had asked me to join them for a birthday celebration. Following that I went to visit my folks.
