Hi Wesse! I have avoided posting due to my attempt to deal with my own feelings over what happened in my marriage,too.(My anger is greater,when I read of the heartbreak that others coninue to suffer)
Yes,Dbing worked in repairing my marriage,but it seems that I gave up part of my very soul in the process.
In repressing my own feelings about my H's actions,I have injured myself.
Wesse,you and I and others like us are most likely suffering from some sort of "Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome".I have had "flashbacks" of painful memories at significant times in the past year.
My children have suffered,too and continue to have problems that are directly related to the unstable household they lived in during the tumultuous beginning months of what seemed to be the breakup of their family.
Wesse,I am glad you posted and I empathize....totally.Life willl never be the same for us in terms of "feeling safe",but we have to work on moving on and growing in a positive direction.In my case,I haven't felt my H has really told me,he is sorry for the pain he caused me.
Last week,I broke down and shared some of the feelings,I have conveyed here,to him and he did apologize.It helped somewhat,but I need more.
It is obvious that the DB approach requires considerable restraint on the part of the "DBer".This,however can cause a negative aftermath for those of us who basically "toughed it out" at our own expense...Jenny
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