I read with great interest your comments on Alex's situation - it is wonderful that you had become such a good therapist in the process of your own struggle. Since you and I belong to the oldtimers, I always followed your story closely and I am delighted that you saved your marriage so well. In contrast to you,I must admit that I was only able to save myself (and my son), while H did not jet show serious signs of waking up. He never asks for D, however, he also shows no signs of trying to work on the marriage. I assume that OW is still somehow in the picture (although, it might be more of a long distance thing), but I never ask him or mutual friends what is going on in H's life. I am not sure if my action to go on with my life and built a strong career of my own in any way helped our situation, but it for sure helped me to regain power in my life. I am also conflicted if after all H has done (living me in the middle of pregnancy, etc.), I can at all trust him in the future and can rebuilt life with him. Life is hard being a single mother, but at the end I feel, I had so far survived the worst. And the little boy is the true blessing of my life.
I wish you lots of happiness in your "new" marriage and keep us posted with your wise advices.
