Hi Lisa! Thanks for the update.Sounds like you are continuing to make some progress. However,LISTEN to what you are saying about NOT using DBing tecniques.You need to change that right now! Read Michele's books and start DBIng for real,while you still have a chance. It's wonderful that you are receiving help from Michele's staff....But YOU have to do MOST of the work YOURSELF! Lisa,you won't save your marriage by hanging on kicking and screaming all the way.Who would want to come back to a situation like that. If you DB effectively,your H will be drawn back to you and will feel like he is making the decision himself.