Would it be possible to say that she has her cake and is eating it too....living a double life, one with you, one with her OM? That is probably why she seems out of it. She probably truly doesn't know what to do and that is why the conversations go nowhere. You want them to go somewhere and she wants things to stay exactly like they are for now. You just need to decide what you want. Are you willing to wait for her fog to clear? If so, it will be on her schedule, not yours...that I promise. In the meantime, please enjoy yourself....make sure you go out with a few other women...I promise your wife won't care and it will take the pressure off of her. Wish I had more to add.
