Update: Talked to W last night, and really listened to her replies. Asked her to finish a couple conversations that she left dangling this week - one, she said she almost took me up on my offer of a vacation on the beach alone - but explained she wouldn't because she would just return to the same situation, decisions, stresses, etc. Also asked what she meant about our our marriage not being so bad, and she cited vacations, time together,etc. and said that she thought it a big mistake to not have gotten a babysitter for S5 long ago. On the negative side, she said she's much happier and anxiety free than she was prior to the bomb, and is secure that OM would "never hurt her". She was a bit impatient with the discussion, and pretty apathetic - I think she talked to me for my benefit, but would rather not have. I asked her to tell me those things as a way of understanding what went wrong - part of my C's advice. Nothing annoying or angry occurred, but it didn't lead to anything either - I should wait for her to initiate, probably. Any thoughts? The whole thing was less than 5 minutes.
