Most likely you thought you were meeting her needs, but in reality not. We can all be more sympathetic, friendly, fun, and interesting. We also can learn to address areas of conflict in a straightforward manner with no passive-aggressive behavior. It actually is the handling of difficult topics in an open, honest no-agenda manner with the goal of resolution not winning that eventually leads to increased intimacy and healing of the relationship. Once she feels safe with you and feels heard, then the anger with dissolve.
I would advise a few sessions with a good councelor to learn how to mirror a person. Very interesting...showed me an entire new way how to communicate with anyone....wife, son, parent.....and so effective.
