Thanks for your reply NC - it's a fresh perspective that I appreciate. Despit all the recent pain described above, I'm in a pretty good place with what's happening - I know it's probably going to continue, and I'm working on only the things I can impact. She intends to be fully out of the house, so I'll be left here - which is OK by me - I can handle the "ghosts". The net effect is the same for us -distance and time, but with frequent interaction because of our son. I'm confident you're right about the neglect - as a matter of fact, you nailed it. The reasons are specific to each of us, but we all seem to fall into that group...
