You know those paddle-ball things with the rubber ball on elastic cord on a ping-pong paddle? Well, picture this:
W: How'd things go with C last night? She tell you to just forget all about me? DZ: No - nothing like that, but she's helped me to see the bigger picture in our crappy marriage and recognize some things I'd ignored. W: Really? I've been thinking lately that it wasn't so bad. I've been thinking about taking you up on your offer to send me to Florida to live on the beach alone for a couple weeks. DZ: The offer stands. I think you should do some serious thinking about your decisions, and I can't give you unbiased advice! W: I'm not totally sure of what I want. DZ: Well, your decision is made from the looks of things - you owe too much to OM to just walk away now... W: You don't have a relationship with someone just because you owe it to them! DZ: [silence], but thinking: [Now you get it! So spending your life with the human escape hatch doesn't appeal so much?]
Now that was this morning - she was with OM in afternoon, and this evening she was back to "Miss Blame DZ" again.
Now guess who's the paddle and who's the ball...Hint: a week ago, the answer might have been different.
Note to Grasshopper: If I send her to Florida, I'll tell you what beach to find her on!
