Just a quick note- Went to see my C last night and spent an hour talking with her - after thinking I had nothing to say. I'm really starting to evolve in to a stage where I can see my W's mistakes and shortcomings as a partner, and some of the severe problems our marriage had. Oddly, this hasn't hardened my heart to her at all - has anyone had a similar experience? My C has cautioned me many times not to think I have to "take care of her", so I'm suspicious of my own emotions, but I found it very "settling" to my thoughts as I went through it.
Almost like I'm viewing a movie of our marriage and seeing things I ignored before, but without anger or blame. Very odd.
On another note, I described my sleep problems to her, and she suggested Tylenol PM. And it worked, surprisingly! Just a little hint - one I'll bet a lot of us could use!
