Another thought about the lawyer thing: She may perceive it to be a "money thing" - protecting myself from her spending - which isn't a 180 - and she's partially correct. I've basically given up on "us", but I don't want to slam any doors, either.
Has anyone had a similar situation?
It's a big ball to start rolling.......
This conflict is something else - I feel like I should be thinking about dating soon (!), but I'm desperate to save my marriage and I love my wife and son terribly, and want to pour my energy and heart into them, not myself - I guess that's what makes GAL so hard. It's been a long time since I thought of anything but their happiness - even if I was lousy at making her happy, it was still my biggest concern. Big enough, in fact, that I "let" her have a male "friend" I knew was a bad idea. OM now!!!!
