A little update: I think this week I will be going to a lawyer for the initial consult toward a separation. W is so adamant that she wants this, that I think maybe accelerating it could be the key to the "beyond the LRT" - then again, it could backfire. In either case, there's no R for us to work on, and the additional stress and inconvenience of not having our house to use as a "home base" might help her see the light. Any thoughts? Biggest downside is that my son is part of the separation, but that's going to happen soon anyway. I suspect he might be spending lots more time with me than she says - just so she can have the free time.
