deezee, my prays go out to you, god your situation is almost to a "T" like mine, but we are now apart from each other, and i've been living with my parents. i hope you can save your M , i feel your pain. and i have to agree that you shouldn't talk about your R, just take it a day at a time, and keep busy. be a good father to your S, and be good to yourself. i know its hard, i find myself calling her house to talk to the kids and hoping she answers the phone just so i can hear her voice, she has stopped taking to me all together, and i am forced to comunicate through the kids for anything, like when can i pick them up. i have to ask the kids??? i don't know why, she hasn't introduced the OM to my children yet, so i'm scared on how they will take it, i have a D 8, and a D 11, i've been a huge part of there lives, been with her for 14 years, been the only financial provider in the home, active with my children activities, coach softball for them, and now i can't even go over and tuck them in bed. she blames me for her falling out of love with me, blames me for everything, i just feel she is so unhappy with her life, no work or career, few frinds that she see's seldomly, and now WOW there is another man who loves her and tells her she's his soul mate, " my daughter 11 found a 2 page love letter from him to her, and she told what it basical said. i told her to put it back and don't say anything to mom. i also feel how do i compete with that, new relationship with no issues, most of our problems in the past was about money, cause she didn't want to work.
i'm sorry deezee, i've been going off with my problems, just try to keep busy, visit friends and family, and try to take better care of yourself.